About David

It’s impossible to articulate all of a man on a single page. But here’s some key things about me.

My name is David Bokser. I am a lover of good food, my family, martial arts (BJJ in particular), hiking, travel and overall being a human. I am a feeler. I am a partner to my beloved girlfriend, whom I get to build the life of my dreams with everyday. I was born and raised in Staten Island, NY. I’m currently traveling.

My astrology big 3 are Cancer (sun), Aries (moon), & Leo (rising). My Human Design is 6/2 Generator.

I am a recovering sex/porn addict, a recovering people pleaser, a brutally honest used-to-be liar, and a former escape artist. I am as anxious as they come, and face my inner child, demons, fears, insecurities, and all of my “shit” everyday. I am committed to the challenging daily journey of being present, being a devoted intimate partner, and to embracing all that life puts in front of me (the painful, the beautiful, the fun, the raw emotions, etc.) with my eyes wide open and my heart courageously forward.

Life experience and my own 7 year journey in studying and incorporating different spiritual practices and modalities has led me to the path of Men’s Work. These modalities include plant medicine, breathwork, meditation, singing, ecstatic dance and more. What I’ve integrated is an honest and radical self awareness (nothing special here), a deep commitment to doing the “work” around said awareness, and a willingness to embrace many men on their unique journeys. Not trying to fix, only willing to fully witness and embrace.

I am Level 1 Certified in Leadership under Sacred Sons and I’m following their path in leading intimate and healing mens spaces. I’m also trained in Level 1 Wim Hof Breathwork, which I incorporate into my spaces as well. I have experience hosting Journaling/Meditation Circles and Ecstatic Dance. I am currently studying to earn my Breathwork Facilitator license and 200 hour Yoga Teacher license, both of which I will add to spaces once completed.

I am not here to lead in any “guru” type of way. What is most important to me is being authentic, being heart-led, and connecting brothers in a supportive community. I’m simply here to meet other men in the spaces that I NEED myself. I teach based on what I practice daily, and I speak from my intimate experience.

My own healing journey in quitting porn and healing from its effects has led me to create THE PORN-FREE MAN. I never ever thought I’d necessarily be teaching how to quit porn the men’s work way, but when the universe pulls me, I let her. I’ve acquired a particular awareness of the issue of porn/sex addiction and the effects of childhood sexual trauma. I navigate both on a daily basis. I know the reasons that we use porn in depth, and I put together a set of teachings on getting to the root of the issue, as to actually quit for good and heal.

A broad list of the things I am committed to…

• Becoming a safer man

• Radical honesty

• Leaning into relationship with the deepest devotion

• Harnessing my sexual/creative energy

• Falling deeply in love with life and facing challenges with my heart forward

• Leading and creating safety in my intimate partnership

• Connecting to/strengthening my body

• Processing and transmuting my trauma

• Embracing true brotherhood and community

• Endlessly learning as a student of life

• Living intentionally, balancing inner masculine and feminine energies