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My philosophy đź§
When I decided enough was enough and I had to quit porn, I turned to SAA (sex addicts anonymous). I still do a weekly meeting.
However, I really harnessed my power and did deep healing in Men’s Work spaces - and in the brotherhood I’ve accessed through those spaces.
I harness the best of these two worlds to walk my path -
1. SAA’s addiction framework of disciplined choice, repetition and accountability.
2. Men’s Work’s common principles of vulnerability, brotherhood, emotional awareness, divine partnership, leadership, spiritual connection, purpose and more.
Tie all that with trauma healing, disciplined action, nervous system regulation and brain rewiring… and you get No Man’s Land.
This journey brought me to my 4 main areas of focus
Nervous System work (making my body feel safe and grounded)
Emotional work (accessing, accepting, and transmuting my emotions)
Intimate Connection work (honesty, intimacy, friendship and real sexual fulfillment)
Purpose work (harnessing creative energy for what matters - living aligned with a clear purpose and values)
The Method ⚡️
Everyday I work this method from the bottom-up. This is my tool for BEING a porn-free man and for aligning all areas of my life in great coherence.
Nervous System Regulation is the base for a reason. From a regulated inner state, I can embrace what the outside world puts in front of me. It is the base of all inner and outer work.
Emotional Resiliency is the willingness to FEEL. Being aware of your emotions and meeting your emotion’s needs. The courage to be present with your body and emotions.
Intimate Connection is what we really need when we reach for porn. Moving through the first two steps opens you up to embrace true intimacy and sexual fulfillment. As well as meaningful friendship. Intimacy = INTO-ME-YOU-SEE
Purpose is the sustainability. With a clear purpose and values, you have the compass for staying the aligned course. What to say YES to. And what to say NO to. When that is clear, you get to make aligned choices instead of unconscious or addictive ones.
Yes, this method is damn effective for quitting porn. But that is because it’s more expansive than the issue of porn addiction. It is about living deeply clear and open as a channel for what your highest self demands. It is about courageously facing your inner and outer work. These are tools for living bigger, bolder, empowered, calm, safe, and intimately connected with life itself. Harnessing these tools makes quitting porn simply a byproduct of living an aligned life.
Clear the blockage of porn addiction and open up to the powerful and free existence that you’re built for.
Learn HOW below, brother.
Walk with me
Podcast 🎙️
No Man's Land Men's Work Podcast: Honest conversations about quitting porn, healing in brotherhood, and living with purpose. Explore men’s work through my personal insights and powerful interviews with other men dedicated to inner transformation and making a positive dent in the universe.
Starter Kit 🌱
The ultimate guide for living not just a porn-free life, but an empowered, safe, and free life. An email brigade of golden insights, practical tools, bold opinions, and lots of brotherly Love. Plus some information and further invitations into No Man’s Land. This is the place to start if you’re serious about living porn-free.
Workshop ⚒️
Every 2nd Tuesday of the month I host a 60 minute kick ass breakdown of the Porn-Free method. I share my story, and I walk you through the daily process of quitting porn effectively and healing from its effects. It’s pay what you can (or free). Bring a curious mind, an open heart, a pen and some paper. Let’s dive in.
10 week journey 🗓️
My deepest container. Men’s work meets addiction healing, meets nervous system work, meets intimacy training, meets emotional depth, meets purpose clarity, meets brotherhood. We meet on Zoom for 10 weeks of connection with aligned goals - quit porn and reclaim your power. Expect transformation.
I am the owner and facilitator of NML Men’s Work. I value radical honesty, deep compassion, and the willingness to grow. All of which comes through in how I hold spaces, and in how I connect to brothers.
I’ve been in a 7 year spiritual journey, which really tested me in this last year or so. I have studied and learned various spiritual modalities, dabbled in plant medicine (in healthy and not-so-healthy ways), and am now deeply immersed in the Mens Work world. And in that, I am home.
None of those things, however, has brought peace in my life quite like letting go of unhealthy coping mechanisms (porn, weed, social media scrolling), focusing on my nervous system, and the devotion of intimate partnership has.
Now I walk with many tools, and share what I can as I walk. I use my greatest super powers for my deepest containers, and I show up with integrity, honesty, growing wisdom and passion in everything I do here at No Mans Land.
Learn more about me and my journey HERE.