A porn-free man  is a free man. 💡

What is TPFM 10 Week Journey?

The purpose of this program is to build tools for fulfillment and empowerment, while connecting to self and brotherhood. The main goal is quitting porn effectively and beginning to heal from its effects.

Quitting porn the men’s work way is a journey in discovering purpose and reclaiming power.

Doing it together means connecting with brothers on a parallel path while accessing the support required for the long road. It also means a safe and expansive space to be seen and be YOU.

Your Path to freedom, safety and empowerment:

Week by Week

Week 1 🕯️
Opening ceremony & Agreements

Ceremony is opened and brotherhood is the priority. In week 1 we set the tone for a 10 week journey. We make agreements for safety and confidentiality. We introduce ourselves and share our experiences and expectations. We learn what’s ahead in the program. We set our intentions. We begin the 10 week connection journey strong with our heads up and our hearts forward.

WEEK 2 👨‍💻
Why we use porn & Meeting our needs

Week 2 is all about identifying WHY we turn to porn. We dive into the 4 main reasons we use it and we reflect on our own experiences with these reasons. When we know the why, we can better understand ourselves and our habits. We introduce No Man’s Land Porn-Free Method of quitting effectively by meeting our needs and being in coherence - mind, body and soul.

WEEK 3 🧘‍♂️
Step #1 : regulated nervous system

The first need we must meet is having a grounded Nervous System. Without a regulated and grounded nervous system, we won’t have the capacity to be present and intentional. So week 3 is all about how we calm down our systems, drop into our bodies, and set the tone for the deep work of conscious manhood.

Week 4 🌊
Step #2 : Emotional resilience

When our bodies are grounded and we have the backbone of a nervous system practice, we are ready to meet our emotional needs. In week 4 we discuss how porn is a coping mechanism for difficult emotions, and we discuss how we can feel, express, and transmute our emotions. We embrace what it means to be emotionally powerful and present.

WEEK 5 ♥️
Step #3 : Authentic intimacy

Porn is pseudo connection. What we need is the REAL THING. We discuss this in great depth in week 5. We dive into what stands in the way of deep human connection and how we can meet our authentic intimacy needs. We acquire and practice the tools to foster the kinds of relationships we want and need. And we embrace it first hand with brothers.

Week 6 ⚡️
Step #4 : Purpose, creativity & values

Week 6 might be my favorite. When I quit porn and embraced discipline, feeling, and healing, a funny thing happened… my purpose showed itself, and I had the creative energy to make it reality. Here we dive into how porn distracts us from purpose, disconnects us from our values, and sucks our creative energy. We learn how to build the life we are destined to live.

WEEK 7 🙏🏼
The disciplined & safe man

After each need is addressed, we discuss what it means to be a safe man in our world. We explore the effects of our porn use on those around us. And we discuss porn’s effects on the world. As brothers, we get to call each other forward and chart a safer, more empowered, and disciplined way for ourselves. We lead by example and embody the men we are proud to be.

WEEK 8 🫀
The Heart-led man

In week 8 we build on what a safe and discipline man is by embracing love and gratitude as our armor and our sword. We celebrate the ceremony of life, and the fact that WE GET to do this work. We embrace life as a teacher, as a gift, and as incredibly beautiful. We practice forgiveness. We embody what it means to be a heart-led man.

Week 9 ✍🏾
Integration Preparation

A journey is nothing without integration. In week 9 we take a look at what we’ve experienced and learned. And we access the tools for long term integration and continuing our journeys. I open the floor for a Q&A discussion. I like this one to be fairly open ended so we can dive a bit deeper into some topics that each of the men want to explore and discuss.

WEEK 10 🪶
Closing ceremony & Brotherhood

Our closing ceremony consists of reflection, integration, intention setting, and lots of brotherly Love! We discuss how we can continue connections and how we can access ongoing support. We talk about what’s next for the continued ceremony called Life. “We say goodbye for now, brothers.” (I’m emotional just thinking about it)

Meet Your Instructor

My name is David Bokser, and I am the owner of NML Men’s Work. I am also a recovering sex and porn addict, a lover of men’s work, a martial artist (Brazilian Jiu Jitsu), a partner to my beautiful girlfriend and many more things. I am over 1 year clean from porn and it has been the deepest healing year of my life, by far! I created THE PORN-FREE MAN 10-Week Journey because it is exactly what I wish I had a year ago. I am LT1 Certified by Sacred Sons in holding healing containers for men. This program is for guys like me. Heck it is for ME. What I have learned about my coping mechanisms, my nervous system, my emotions, my relationships, and my purpose - paired with my skills in holding men in expressive and expansive spaces - makes this program unmatched in the QUITTING PORN industry (a relatively untapped and deeply needed realm). I do my work, and I struggle with these processes. I am deeply effected by watching porn since before I was 7 years old, and from all the ways I’ve moved in this world because of those wounds. I know this process in and out because I live it everyday. And I’m ready to share it with you.
More about me HERE.

How it works

  • DURATION : 10 Weeks starting in Mid April 2025

  • FORMAT : One Group ZOOM Call every week at the same day and time for 2 hours. (Day and time will be picked as you reserve a spot and vote on it - I’m trying to accommodate to the majority of the men).

  • HOMEWORK : Each session will end with a practice/challenge to take home and explore throughout the week. These can/will be journaling, breath-work, movement, and other forms of embodiment.

  • COST : The cost of the program is below (scroll down).

Take the 1st step

toward freedom

We Start in April 2025

Book a no obligation 30 Minute discovery call!
I promise you this call is NOT a manipulative sales call. It’s a “Can this genuinely help you?” call. It’s an “Are you ready to take this step?” call. It’s a “You are not alone” call.

The total cost of the program is $1000, and damn do I wish I had this program in the beginning of my quitting porn and healing journey. All of what I’ve learned and done is worth thousands more (trust me, I’ve spent it). This is no doubt an investment - and with that, a commitment. I promise that if TPFM is a right fit for you, then it’s a beneficial life changing investment.

ANY QUESTIONS CAN BE SENT via EMAIL below - or in a FREE DISCOVERY CALL (A lot more fun than an email).

30 Minute discovery call

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I will get back to you within 48 hours to book our 30 minute discovery call.

Look out for an email & text from me.

I’m looking forward to connecting with you! cheers, brother.

With Love,

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